Why does surrender get such a bad reputation, as if letting someone else take the lead means you’ve somehow lost control… I do not think that at all. You are choosing to hand some of it over to me for a while. There is a difference between having no control versus not wanting to use it. This is where I feel the power dynamic within erotic massage becomes so interesting…
Most of us really do spend an enormous amount of time being responsible for something. We are all constantly making decisions, thinking ahead, solving problems and quietly keeping track of everything that needs to happen next. Even when we are supposed to be relaxing, part of our brain is usually still ticking over. Surrender in erotic massage really does give you a break from that. For an hour or longer, you can choose someone else to lead. This is a time for you to discover how good it feels when you can let go and let your body take over.
I think this is where the power exchange begins. By the time we meet, you’ve already made all the decisions. Now, it is time for me to take over… The benefit isn’t just that you get to lie back and stop making decisions. I think when you stop managing an experience, you’ll have much more attention available to actually experience it! You are not wondering what you should be doing or trying to anticipate every moment. You will notice how you feel instead. I think that is exactly one of the reasons surrender can feel so freeing. You are still completely capable of taking control whenever you want, but in the room with me you have decided you’d rather be curious about where I am going to lead you…!
And curiosity is where all the fun is at! Giving someone else the lead means giving up a little predictability too. You do not necessarily know what is going to happen next, how long I am going to make you wait or when I am going to change up the pace… And suddenly anticipation becomes a part of the experience. A little uncertainty keeps your attention exactly where I want it: in the room with me!
There is also another side to this power dynamic that I love, because your surrender changes my role too. The more you allow me to lead, the more closely I get to pay attention to you. I am noticing your reactions and adjusting as we go. Being given control isn’t interesting because I get to boss someone around, it is interesting to me because you have allowed me room to play 😉
I think that is why power and surrender work so beautifully together. You choose to give up some responsibility, which leaves me more freedom to lead. I lead and that gives you freedom to stop thinking and just simply respond. The more comfortable you become with that exchange, the less interested you will be in concentrating on what is coming next and the more absorbed you will become in the experience.
I think that is the pleasure of surrender. There is no weakness in letting go when you are the one who chose to do it. You still have control, you’ve simply decided that for a little while you’d quite like me to have some of it instead. I get the freedom to lead, you get the freedom to stop thinking about where we’re going next and we both get to enjoy what happens in between…
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